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What Voices are You Listening To - A Happy Seed

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"I have learned a great deal from listening carefully."
- Ernest Hemingway 
The Basic IDEA
What voices are you listening to and do you like the way they speak to you?
-Zoe Smiles


 Digging Deeper

I recently shared my Spotify playlist during an afternoon of music and product making with my brother.
He kindly offered to help me complete some inventory for our San Diego show and I was so excited to share with him my favorite jams.

After listening to the 12th track, my brother turned to me and said, “Zoe, you’re amazing and cool and beautiful, you don’t need your music to affirm it.” Now, I did just finish playing the 12th song in my badass female empowerment music anthology, so I understand why he said it.

But, it did make me wonder: How important is it for our music, environment, and relationships to validate how we see ourselves?

Is it important for our interactions to affirm our identity? How much misidentification can we take before we begin to doubt our own perception of ourselves?

I believe I would not be an artist today if my mom had not reinforced her belief in my capabilities as an artist.

I know it took me years to wear my hair out in public because even though I’ve always thought my Afro was beautiful, I received over a decade of negative comments from strangers and close family members.

In both instances, outside voices helped to shape my life choices.

I believe when we have the opportunity to decide who and what we will listen to, we should choose to focus on voices that honor the best parts of us and guide us to grow in our trouble areas.

I listen, read, and engage with podcasts, music, books, and people who reinforce my nature of kindness, joy, strength, and all the other 100’s of ways I view myself.

When I do listen to voices that don’t align with the vision I have of myself, I keep what resonates or offers an opportunity for self reflection. Then, I let go of whatever is left that doesn’t work for me.

Pay attention to what you take in.


 Two Things for You to Try This Week

1. Be nice. Voice out-loud the  positive attributes of your friends or family. How often do you get to tell those closest to you that they are amazing? Well, no matter how you answered, it’s probably best if you do it even more.


2. Do some spring cleaning. If you recognize something you engage with or someone in your life is harmful or damaging, slowly remove them from your space.


A Quick Note from Zoe

Welcome to The Happy Seeds monthly newsletter.

I send you one quote to read, a thought message, and one or two action steps to take at some point during the month.

The goal is to offer you a happy perspective to look forward to and some creative opportunities for you to add joy to your week.

It's easy for me to get caught up in the day to day and I've learned happiness is a muscle. You have to BUILD and then MAINTAIN a happy mindset.

If the content or action steps in this email make an impact on you this week - whether it's as simple as re-watching your favorite show series, as joyful as connecting with an old friend from 2012 or as big as finally having the opportunity to go skydiving, please send me an email and let me know.

Talk to you again soon!